Pleasure, Prayer, Passion … and Pasta
It seems everywhere I’ve turned in the past few months, people have been talking about Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love, a travel memoir of self-discovery, mostly raving about how wonderful it was. So when I came across a used hardcover version for $1, I figured I’d hitch a ride on the bandwagon. I decided to choose her book as the first selection for a women’s reading group I’ve started at my church, a reason for me to bump it up in my reading queue, and I thought it would provide ample discussion points for the varied group of women who joined the club. I won’t even go into the details of the book itself, since most everyone has read or knows about this book by now, but here are some random thoughts:
- I inserted sticky tabs for any passages that struck a chord with me or stood out in some way. After reading it, I counted to see how many tabs I’d placed in each country. Italy had 1, Indonesia 4, and India had 8. Hmmm … I expected more from the land of pasta and romance, but connecting with many of the spiritual sentiments expressed in the Indian section was no surprise.
- Now I want to travel to Italy and India even more than I did before reading about them through Liz Gilbert’s experience. I really enjoyed her conversational style of writing something so personal and meaningful to her, and appreciated her willingness to share not just the good, but also the bad.
- I really wish I had the talent to make my living traveling the world and writing about it.
- During her time in Italy, a friend tells her that every city – and every person – has a word. I think mine would be seeker.
Some of my favorite quotes:
On the unpredictability of life: I look at the Augusteum, and I think that perhaps my life has not actually been so chaotic after all. It is merely this world that is chaotic, bringing changes to us all that nobody could have anticipated. (p. 75)
On meditation: I’ve heard it said that prayer is the act of talking to God, while meditation is the act of listening. [...] When I ask my mind to rest in stillness, it is astonishing how quickly it will turn 1) bored, 2) angry, 3) depressed, 4) anxious, or 5) all of the above. (p.132)
On faith: … the decision to consent to any notion of divinity is a mighty jump from the rational over to the unknowable, and I don’t care how diligently scholars of every religion will try to sit you down with their stacks of books and prove to you through scripture that their faith is indeed rational; it isn’t. If faith were rational, it wouldn’t be–by definition–faith. Faith is belief in what you cannot see or prove or touch. (p. 175)
On prayer: Prayer is a relationship; half the job is mine. If I want transformation, but can’t even be bothered to articulate what, exactly, I’m aiming for, how will it ever occur? Half the benefit of prayer is in the asking itself, in the offering of a clearly posed and well-considered intention. [...] What worked yesterday doesn’t always work today. Prayers can become stale and drone into the boring and familiar if you let your attention stagnate. (p. 177)
AND … It’s easy enough to pray when you’re in distress but continuing to pray even when your crisis has passed is like a sealing process, helping your soul hold tight to its good attainments. (p. 260)
On finding your way to God: I think you are free to search for any metaphor whatsoever to which will take you across the worldly divide whenever you need to be transported or comforted. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. It’s the history of mankind’s search for holiness. [...] You take whatever works from wherever you can find it, and you keep moving toward the light. (p. 208)
AND … God dwells within you as you yourself, exactly the way you are. God isn’t ineterested in watching you enact some performance or personality in order to comply with some crackpot notion you have about how a spiritual person looks or behaves. [...] To know God, you need only to renounce one thing–your sense of division from God. Otherwise, just stay as you were made, within your natural character. (p. 192)
AND … keep searching for the metaphors, rituals and teachers that will help you move ever closer to divinity. The Yogic scriptures say that God responds to the sacred prayers and efforts of human beings in any way whatsoever that mortals choose to worship–just so long as those prayers are sincere. (p. 206)
On God’s love and forgiveness: … this is how God loves us all and receives us all, and that there is no such thing in this universe as hell, except maybe in our own terrified minds. Because if even one broken and limited human being could experience even one such episode of absolute forgiveness and acceptance of her own self, then imagine–just imagine!–what God, in all His eternal compassion, can forgive and accept. (P. 328)
And as for the reading group, it was an auspicious beginning with a book that generated a lively, provocative discussion. I hope it’s the first in a long line of such evenings.






















I think I’ve been stubborn again with this one. Refusing to read or buy it just because everyone is telling me to, saying how good it is. I think when I do, I’ll knock myself for taking so long to get to it. Now if I came across a $1 copy, I would definitely buy and read it.
Yeah, that’s always the hazard with much-hyped books. I will say there were some women in the group who did not enjoy it, but that just helped the discussion be even more lively, so that was actually a good thing. So, try to go into it without any too-high expectations.
I’m glad you liked it, this has become one of my favorites. I have been hesitating to recommend it though, since the one person I recommended it to right after finishing it found it “shallow,” and didn’t even finish it …
Ugh, I hate it when that happens! I always feel so responsible for recommending something that someone else ends up disliking. Consequently, there are very few books that I specifically recommend to others. But I will rave about a book if it’s one I enjoyed, and sometimes friends just end up reading it based off that.
I have heard a lot about this one, and so your review has been helpful! I’m glad you enjoyed it! guess I gotta put it on my ever growing TBR list! Thanks for the great review!
You’re welcome – I hope you enjoy it! And I completely relate to the TBR list … mine never seems to get any smaller, no matter how many I read from it.
Thanks for sharing about this book. I’ve had it on my wish list for awhile, and now I want to read it even more. I, too, wish I had the talent to make my living traveling the world and writing about it!
That would be lovely, wouldn’t it? Perhaps in my next life!
It was interesting to hear your perspective. I actually did not like it, but I seem to be in the minority.
I had a few women say they didn’t like it, so you’re certainly not alone, and it would be quite boring if we all enjoyed the same books!
Thank you for such a great and in depth review. I’ve been on the border of reading this and not reading this. I’ve been afraid that all the hype about this book isn’t going to live up to actually reading it. So I’ve been very hesitant about reading it at all! BUT….you just closed the deal lol. Thanks for a wonderful review!
After I wrote this, I actually thought it was a very sparse commentary on the book, so I’m glad you got something out of it.
I’m planning to buy this during our employee discount sale in December. I’ve heard great things about it and enjoyed listening to the author on Oprah. She’s very articulate and seems like someone I’d like to know. Since that’s probably not going to happen, I’ll read her book! I skipped over your favorite passages so they’ll be new to me when I read the book. I’m glad it was a good discussion read. I’m thinking about starting a book group after the New Year. I’ll keep this one in mind!
I hope you enjoy it and will be watching for your review. I wish I’d seen her on Oprah but I forgot all about it!
I meant to suggest this book as a possible read at my last book club meeting, but totally spaced. I know that one other person in the group is interested as well. Thanks for the reminder with your excellent review. I’ll drop her a line.
Let me know if you end up doing it and what everyone thought of it.
I have a terrible, pig-headed habit of avoiding the popular books, particularly while they’re still all hyped-up. I imagine eventually I’ll get to this one.
You’re not the only one, trust me. I was like that with The Secret Life of Bees, The Kite Runner, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime, etc. etc. Thankfully, at least those few, I eventually did read and enjoyed them all.
This one has been on my “maybe” list for a while now. Thanks for a great review!
I’ll be curious to see what you think of it if you get to it, it strikes me as something you’d enjoy.
I’ve been wondering about this one–so pleased that you did such a great review on it, Lesley! I’ll have to check it out.
And I’m happy you’ve got another book club going! I look forward to hearing about it!
Susan
Now that you’ve got a copy, I can’t wait to hear what you think about it.
This is second time I am hearing this book praised… Although it is not exactly my type, the signs do seem to say something.
It seems to have been making the book group rounds, and of course now that Oprah has had the author on her show, I’m sure you’ll be hearing a lot more!
I wasn’t sure about this one until I read your review. Now I’ll have to get a hold of a bargain used copy.
Cool – I’ll be curious to read your thoughts on it when you’re able to snag yourself a copy.
i loved this book. i think after reading it, i was ready to take a year off too and just see the world… oh well, one can dream!
I know, right? At least we can live vicariously through people like this (minus the painful divorce).
I’ve been looking at this for a while now… After reading your review I think I will bump it up to the top of my list!
Glad to hear it and I hope you enjoy the book!
I read this book after receiving it as a gift from one of my dearest friends. I was most intrigued to read about her experiences in India, as I am married to an Indian citizen and was, at the time, planning travel there. In fact, I’ve just returned.
For the most part, I liked the book. Having said that, though, the one aspects of travelogues that leaves me feeling less than satisfied is that they’re so very personal. That can’t be helped, I suppose–everyone’s view of the world is tinted by our own experiences. In the same vein, my hopes for this book were tinted by my hunger for insight on India. While I can certainly see that the author is a wise, emotionally strong woman, her book just didn’t have what I most wanted. I’m a newlywed. At the end of the day, I just couldn’t relate to the basis of Gilbert’s problems; consequently, the book didn’t touch me.
This book does seem to either create a connection with the reader or leaves them cold. Sorry it was the latter for you! I enjoy reading travelogues, too, but for me, it’s the personal aspect that makes it enjoyable. Different strokes, eh?